“What would help?”
The decision comes back.
Practical relationship support, privately shared.
When explaining what you need is one more task.
Feel supported without having to explain everything.
Choose a signal. Approve one action. Help it land.
No action reaches your partner until you approve it.
1 · Signal
They choose what to share.
When care becomes another task
“What do you want for dinner?” can still be one more decision.
The problem is not a lack of care. One person wants to help; the other does not have the energy to direct it. Offering options can still leave the work with the person who is already carrying too much.
Support should reduce explanation, not create more of it.
From good intention to useful action
Knowing something is wrong is not the same as knowing what to do.
Lights On helps turn chosen context into one practical action a partner can complete today.
“I’ve taken dinner off your plate.”
One approved action is already clear.
How it works
One private signal. One approved action. One clearer way to show up.
Signal
Choose what kind of support fits today: I'm open, Check in, or Need space.
Approve
Review the suggested action. Approve it, edit it, or reject it.
Act
Your partner receives one clear, practical thing they can do.
Reflect
Share how it landed: Landed, Partly, Missed, or Not done.
Practical by design
Actions, not advice.
No emotional homework. No system language. Just a clear action with a finish line.
01Meals02Decisions03Talking04Intimacy05Weekend06Home
Menstrual · Open“Tell her one concrete thing she handled this week that you noticed. The actual thing — not that she's amazing.”
Ovulatory · Space“One text when you go, one when you're back.”
Luteal · Open“Don't ask her to decide anything.”
Real actions, written in plain English.
Relationship history
The outcome comes back.
Your partner logs what they tried. You close the loop with what actually happened: Landed, Partly, Missed, or Not done.
Over time, that creates a private record of what was tried and what happened—without turning care into a scorecard.
LandedPartlyMissedNot done
The partner view
Useful, not managed.
Your partner gets one clear, approved thing they can do, plus whatever context you choose to share, and a simple way to close the loop.
- One action, not a dashboard
- Concrete enough to complete
- Private context stays private
Learn together
Context, without the lecture.
A calm reference for the four phases and the six everyday areas they can affect. Today’s action stays simple; Learn is there when you want the wider picture.
Consent is the mechanic
You decide what gets shared.
You choose the signal. You see the suggested action first. Your partner sees only what your sharing controls allow, and the action you approve. Personal notes stay private.
You choose what to share.
Every suggestion is reviewed first.
You control phase and mood visibility.
Unpair safely. Keep what’s yours.
Context can help. The person still knows themselves best.
A different category
Built for the moment after “I understand.”
CategoryWhat it helps you do
Cycle trackersSee timing and patterns
Partner sharingSee selected cycle information
Relationship promptsStart a conversation
Lights OnTurn one signal into one approved action, and bring the outcome back.
Built for both of you
Less explaining. Less guessing.
For Maya
Keep control without carrying the whole conversation.
Choose the signal, approve the action, and keep the rest private.
For Oliver
Know how to help without needing to mind-read.
Receive one concrete action and close the loop when it’s done.
Good questions
Before you switch the light on.
Is Lights On a period tracker?
No. Tracking can explain what may be happening. Lights On is built to turn a chosen daily signal into one practical act of care.
Does my partner see everything?
No. Your partner sees only what your sharing controls allow, which can include your phase and current signal, and the action you approve. Your journal and private notes are never shared.
What if an action misses?
A miss is information, not punishment.
Does it depend on a perfectly regular cycle?
No. The daily signal is chosen by the person using the app. It does not ask a calendar to speak for them.
Is Lights On medical advice?
No. Lights On is not a medical device and does not diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any medical condition. It is designed to support communication and connection between partners. Always consult a qualified healthcare professional for medical concerns.
Early access
Show up without guessing.
Available on Android. Join the iPhone waiting list for early access.